The dating game isn’t easy, especially when you’re a Christian looking for God’s match for you amidst the dating rubble.
in the title, you can probably guess my stance on this.
In the words of my co-author, Jeff Wilser, who is an eligible single man in his '30s, "Trust me on this: Never in the history of mankind has a guy ever said, ' She's awesome, she's funny, she's cute, we had a great time, but only one problem..slept together.' We just don't think like that.
If there's chemistry then there's chemistry, and hooking up won't ruin that.
Fear sells, of course, but instructing people to, "Never do this or you'll ruin everything!
" isn’t usually helpful when trying to build authentic relationships.
I've interviewed hundreds of people through the years that have broken "always" or "never" rules in love and have found success.These folks are in relationships not only in spite of breaking a rule, but sometimes because they broke a rule (i.e "never date someone in the office").As we get older, we realize that many of these childhood rules don't apply, and that we should even break a good number of them.This is because as adults, we think critically and thoughtfully about the consequences of our actions.We know that one size or rule does not fit all, and that some of the best moments in our lives happened when we colored outside the lines, took risks, and broke arbitrary rules.Full disclaimer: I co-authored a book on why hard-and-fast rules in dating are generally unhelpful, and I've been on a mission to tell singles questioning their every move that a lot of the fear-based rules out there are rubbish, so I'm a bit biased here.