I’ll never forget when I found out my husband was cheating on me because he accidentally left his email inbox open.When I confronted him, instead of apologizing he exploded and began yelling at ME. After several days of unrelenting insistence he wasn't cheating, I actually found myself questioning whether I'd made this all up in my head.
In short: Everything bad that ever happens is because of you, you, you, and never them. If they can pound into your head just how ugly/useless/pathetic/stupid you are, you'll start to believe it yourself and cling more tightly to him because you (incorrectly) think it's the best you can do.
And once you believe your self-worth is non-existent, emotional psychopaths can make you believe anything they want. He'll discourage and prevent you from seeing your friends because GASP, they might actually have two wits about them and convince you to leave him.
And what they allow you to believe only serves one person: them. If he’s putting in good effort to “fix” you, he can’t tolerate your friends ruining his hard work, not with their "bad" advice and misguided ways.
My ex-husband was abusive: physically, sexually, and most of all emotionally.
(Whoever came up with the expression “sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me” obviously lacked any ability to harbor feelings.) In short: my ex was an emotional psychopath — a complete sociopath.
When we split after a nearly 8 year marriage, he left with a suitcase packed with pieces of me: my pride, self-worth, hopes, dreams.He didn't take those things using his hands; he took them using his words.good sometimes that it's tricky to spot when you're being emotionally abused.Learn from the clues I (eventually) picked up on: 1. Emotional psychopaths aren’t always outright mean; most of the time they're very charming and compassionate.One minute you're fighting, the next he's sweetly telling you, “ Gaslighting is when an abuser changes, twists, and makes up information with the intention of causing someone to doubt their own memory, perception and sanity.It's also a popular tactic of of emotional psychopaths.